It was 16th June, 2005, when I boarded a bus from Enugu en-route Lagos, Nigeria (night bus). The journey was peaceful not until at about 4am when the driver announced the stopping over of the bus at one of the terminal to enable the passengers ease themselves. We alighted from the bus to do just that, but while doing that not quite too long the driver left the terminal without me.
Hurriedly I ran after the bus with a hope of catching up with the bus but all efforts failed. But while running, another bus coming behind stopped to give me a lift. And while inside the bus I was boiling inside with anger and contemplating the kind of drastic actions to take against the Driver and the bus Company for committing such a blunder mistake by abandoning me.
After two hours of hot chase, we finally met the bus and the driver. With anger in my voice I asked him “why did you leave me behind”? The first word that came out of his mouth was “I am Sorry”. Instantly I was pacified. He apologized for his mistake. What do you expect me to do again as person after having apologized?
Every one of us makes mistakes in our relationship with our neighbor, marriages, offices, business associates. Often we repeatedly commit these mistakes. If however you are willing to face your mistakes and apologize to people you offend, you will notice that stiff resistance dissolves and a spirit of forgiveness prevails. If you are unwilling to acknowledge your mistakes, then you have a serious problem - pride. A woman once said that the husband has never apologized to her in their twenty three years of marriage. The husband was asked if that was true. He admitted that he never did apologize to his wife because it was unmanly to say to his wife I am sorry. To him he said his father have never apologized to this mother.
“A soft answer turns away wrath: but grievous words stirs up anger. Prov.15:1” With the words of your mouth you can build up your relationship with your partner, neighbor, business associate, boss in the office. Also with the words of your mouth you can tear down what took you years to build. I have used this Powerful three word s in my 14 years of marriage. It is a proven tool to change the face of trouble spot. How I wish people today will learn how to use these great words, the tensed situation will receive a peaceful solution.
It takes a humble heart to say I am sorry. It takes lover of peace to admit his fault so as to enable peace reign. It takes a lover of peace to rather accept wrong than to allow the fire to result to disaster. Learn to swallow your Pride, humble yourself and tell the people you offend "I am Sorry". Those words will change the trouble zone.
Thursday, June 25, 2009
Sunday, June 14, 2009
How to bring romance back into your life
How to bring romance back into your life
There are 3 great things in this world. The first thing is for you to love someone. The second thing is for someone to love you back and the third greatest thing is for the first
and second thing to happen at the same time...”
I was talking to a bunch of friends and I found that some of them were complaining about the lack of romance in their lives, and I wondered why. One of my friends in particular I noticed complains a lot about everything and one of my friends is always happy about everything. Upon analyzing and looking at their lives I found that there was really not much difference in their lives. It was just the way they looked at things.
The way we look at things really affect us and the quality of life we lead. My spiritual guide and master, a very wise man, says focus on what you want in our life and that will grow manifold in your life. How true! My friend who focuses on the negative seems to be drowning in not so desirable situations, while my friend who always nearly focuses on the good things she has, seems so happy and content, and more and more good thing seem to come her way.
In introspection I have found the same works in my life too. Whatever I seem to focus on seems to multiply and envelopes me. The same situation if I change the way I look it again changes everything. The same situation, the same life but just the focus is different and such a different result. Now I have started focusing on what I want, and not what I don’t have. Nature has created everything in abundance and all I have to do is ask and then put my efforts towards getting it and at some point it comes my way.
The same way I was relating this to my friends. Focus on what you want. In this situation – romance. Okay, so let’s look at it. What are you doing about it? Well, at the moment, honestly nothing, except complaining about the lack of romance. So let’s turn it around. Think of what you have and what you want. So what do we have- a great spouse whom we love. Now what do we want- romance, romance rekindled, a romantic life.
Here are some easy steps to getting what you want:
• Focus on the positive
• Ask for what you desire and then surrender it
• Put forth self effort to attaining what you want.
Here is one way to jumpstart that romance and bring the zing back. Surprise them with a getaway. Nothing says romance more than a getaway. You could do it in so many ways. Send them an invite asking them to go away with you. Include a gift with the invite. You don’t have to spend money, you can write a poem or surf the net and find a poem that reflects your thoughts. Draw them a card, it’s the thought and effort that counts. Pick out some flowers from your backyard; make a cd of your favorite songs that you can bring to the getaway.
You could even put together a basket of romantic things that both you and your partner like. Some ideas for the basket would be wine, chocolate, favorite music, love coupons made out by you for your loved one to redeem, favorite romantic movie, lingerie, or some fun adult toys. If you don’t have time you can always get a basket from a store, there are plenty online, however make sure you plan for it.
There are many different ways you can plan your getaway. First surprise them with the invite and gift and then you can either keep it a complete surprise or let them know the plans. Here are some ideas:
• Weekend getaway to some place close by, a favorite bed and breakfast, or spa resort
• Long beautiful scenic drive ending with a nice romantic dinner
• Picnic at a park or favorite outdoor location. If you are planning on a picnic you could surprise them and bring a picnic basket with your most favorite foods and wines. Don’t forget the dessert. Maybe some chocolate dipped strawberries or some delicious chocolate.
If you are going away for the weekend and you have already made arrangements then you can have flowers or a gift basket waiting for your loved one at the hotel or bed and breakfast. If you have time to make the basket then customize it and make it as personal as you can. If you don’t have time you can find a nice naughty and nice basket online.
All that is between you and what you can do is your imagination. Let it run…. Rekindle the memories and the special moments you have spent together and let that inspire you to bring that spark back.
Article Source: http://www.ArticleStreet.com/
Rashmi Patel.
There are 3 great things in this world. The first thing is for you to love someone. The second thing is for someone to love you back and the third greatest thing is for the first
and second thing to happen at the same time...”
I was talking to a bunch of friends and I found that some of them were complaining about the lack of romance in their lives, and I wondered why. One of my friends in particular I noticed complains a lot about everything and one of my friends is always happy about everything. Upon analyzing and looking at their lives I found that there was really not much difference in their lives. It was just the way they looked at things.
The way we look at things really affect us and the quality of life we lead. My spiritual guide and master, a very wise man, says focus on what you want in our life and that will grow manifold in your life. How true! My friend who focuses on the negative seems to be drowning in not so desirable situations, while my friend who always nearly focuses on the good things she has, seems so happy and content, and more and more good thing seem to come her way.
In introspection I have found the same works in my life too. Whatever I seem to focus on seems to multiply and envelopes me. The same situation if I change the way I look it again changes everything. The same situation, the same life but just the focus is different and such a different result. Now I have started focusing on what I want, and not what I don’t have. Nature has created everything in abundance and all I have to do is ask and then put my efforts towards getting it and at some point it comes my way.
The same way I was relating this to my friends. Focus on what you want. In this situation – romance. Okay, so let’s look at it. What are you doing about it? Well, at the moment, honestly nothing, except complaining about the lack of romance. So let’s turn it around. Think of what you have and what you want. So what do we have- a great spouse whom we love. Now what do we want- romance, romance rekindled, a romantic life.
Here are some easy steps to getting what you want:
• Focus on the positive
• Ask for what you desire and then surrender it
• Put forth self effort to attaining what you want.
Here is one way to jumpstart that romance and bring the zing back. Surprise them with a getaway. Nothing says romance more than a getaway. You could do it in so many ways. Send them an invite asking them to go away with you. Include a gift with the invite. You don’t have to spend money, you can write a poem or surf the net and find a poem that reflects your thoughts. Draw them a card, it’s the thought and effort that counts. Pick out some flowers from your backyard; make a cd of your favorite songs that you can bring to the getaway.
You could even put together a basket of romantic things that both you and your partner like. Some ideas for the basket would be wine, chocolate, favorite music, love coupons made out by you for your loved one to redeem, favorite romantic movie, lingerie, or some fun adult toys. If you don’t have time you can always get a basket from a store, there are plenty online, however make sure you plan for it.
There are many different ways you can plan your getaway. First surprise them with the invite and gift and then you can either keep it a complete surprise or let them know the plans. Here are some ideas:
• Weekend getaway to some place close by, a favorite bed and breakfast, or spa resort
• Long beautiful scenic drive ending with a nice romantic dinner
• Picnic at a park or favorite outdoor location. If you are planning on a picnic you could surprise them and bring a picnic basket with your most favorite foods and wines. Don’t forget the dessert. Maybe some chocolate dipped strawberries or some delicious chocolate.
If you are going away for the weekend and you have already made arrangements then you can have flowers or a gift basket waiting for your loved one at the hotel or bed and breakfast. If you have time to make the basket then customize it and make it as personal as you can. If you don’t have time you can find a nice naughty and nice basket online.
All that is between you and what you can do is your imagination. Let it run…. Rekindle the memories and the special moments you have spent together and let that inspire you to bring that spark back.
Article Source: http://www.ArticleStreet.com/
Rashmi Patel.
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