Marriage is not for boys but rather for men. Real men are matured men. It is quite unfortunate today that we have a lot of lover boys and girls in marriage, which invariably have created a lot of serious Marriage problem.
Maturity of age have to a great extent contributes to success in any marriage relationship. Look closely into this life story. "A Youngman once approached his father that he wants to get married. The father turned down his request considering his age, though full grown up young man. After much repeated request the father obliged to allow him get married. But before the Youngman brought the wife to be for introduction (African settings), the father decided to set up a litmus test to test the young man maturity. The father tied up a dirty pig on the son's well-dressed-bed while he was away. On his arrival, he found a dirty tied up pig on his well dressed up bed. In anger the young man he protested that the pig must die. And at this point the father showed and said "Woman can do worse than this pig to you and if you insist that the pig should die it boils down to the fact that if your wife does something more despicable to you, you can equally send your wife to untimely grave." "Son! You are still immature to get involved into marriage relationship issue.
A lot of young lover boys and girls today have got into marriage relationship only to end up in divorce and regret the entire scenario. Marriage is not child play. It is never a thing to be toyed with. Those who toyed with it have got their fingers burnt. Marriage relationships are not made for boys and girls. The reasons are quite clear. Boys and girls are always under tutors and guardian. They always depend on others to make decisions for them. They are called "mummy's son or daughter and daddy' pet". They always attached to their guardian apron for important life decision. They often ask their mother "should I marry Suzy?" If the mother says no, that ends the relationship. It is better said they are not matured. If you need success in your marriage relationship maturity becomes a must key for the success. If any man intends to get into marriage issue he should ask this honest question "I am matured enough to accommodate a woman with their characters?"
According to Genesis 2:24 "Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother: and shall cleave to his wife and shall be one flesh". Specifically pointed out that a "man" not a boy, college student, or under age. Man shall leave ( break off from the parent's apron, matured enough to take decision, action, resolve issues without third party interference and cleave to his wife. Maturity in marriage means ability to leave and cleave. Notwithstanding look at the second life story: A wife of military officer in the course of little misunderstanding slapped the husband. The husband instead being over-reacted left the house quietly. The woman was worried for such an action by the husband. After a while the man returned home with this word of caution "If I have to react back to the way you slapped me, I will kill you with my bare hand but I know that if anger is not controlled, can destroy things.
Matured men don't rush into actions. He thinks before he acts. He doesn't speak anyhow. He doesn't act irrational. If at all you need to succeed in your marriage you need to consider your wife (woman) as a very "funny creature". They are very sweet, lovely, caring, happy now becomes sad next minute. If they to choose to love they love with everything within them and if they chose to hate they hate will all their heart. They are quite unpredictable. They are times one way traffic. They don't reason the way men reasons. That is how they are made. They are indeed funny creature. They are very wonderful. Therefore if your marriage will ever experience success in this area you need to exercise a lot of:
1. Patience
2. Understanding
3. Forbearance
4. Tenderness
Exercising the above takes maturity to make it happen.
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
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